We’ve all been there—faced with a situation that seems too difficult to figure out on our own. Maybe it’s a crucial development in a relationship, a health condition, or deciding between two jobs. And we all have blind spots, right? We need someone wise who will encourage, guide, and tell us the truth.
For some, it can be difficult to admit when help is needed. It seems easier to suffer than to confess not knowing what to do. But the Bible has much to say on about our need for guidance. So, where do we begin?
1. SEEK GOD’S WISDOM FIRST
There is no better counselor than the Lord.
The Bible should be our first go-to when faced with a difficult decision. Acquiring wisdom and knowledge can’t be underestimated in its importance when you have vital decisions to make.
The Bible says in James 1:5, “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” In asking God for wisdom, we partner with Him as we listen first and then take His counsel.
Sometimes God uses other people to participate with us in this process.
Let’s face it, many things in life are not black and white and sometimes it can be hard to determine how to handle a given situation. Where should we turn for advice when our prayers and Bible reading don’t bring us the clarity we need?
This is where godly counsel and friendships come in. The Bible has much to say about receiving advice. Proverbs 15:5 says “The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice.” Proverbs 15:22 tells us “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed.” So, who can we trust to give ‘wise counsel’?
2. SEEK ADVICE FROM OTHER BELIEVERS
Going to someone who does not share the same biblical values as you can be dangerous.
2 Corinthians 6:14 says “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” 1 Corinthians 15:33 tell us that bad company corrupts good character.
You might have a life-long friend who does not share your same beliefs. Although they know you well, they may not hold the same biblically-based convictions as you. For example, I have a friend who does not see the harm in a couple living together that are not married. We remain friends, but I don’t seek relationship advice from her.
We must seek advice from those who will hold us accountable to keep God’s laws, even when it’s difficult.
3. LOOK FOR EVIDENCE OF SPIRITUAL GROWTH
Before asking someone for advice, consider their character.
Anyone can call themselves a Christian. We must look for a lifestyle that proves a commitment to following godly values.
- How does he/she treat others?
- Do they have control of their tongue in most cases?
- Do they read their Bible and pray regularly?
- A godly individual will not shy away from speaking the truth (God’s Word) in love.
- Who are their friends?
- Do they attend church regularly?
God’s word holds the answers to every problem and situation in life. It makes sense that we first go to God and then to others who walk closely with Him when we need instruction.
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Such sage advice here, Beckie, as always! Yes, often we are faced with confusing, uncertain circumstances, and decisions seem beyond us at the moment. But turning to God first, and then a Godly friend, can certainly help us find our bearings.
Blessings to you!
Thanks, Martha. I’ve written this with God’s guidance for myself since I have a tendency to first try and fix things on my own. We all need God and the people He so graciously places in our lives.
I’m glad He placed you in my life, by the way!
And I feel the same way!!! Our God is so gracious and so full of blessings when we least expect them. 🙂
This is true, having wisdom, knowledge and knowing God is our first step. Happy writings..
Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment, Dee M. I’m glad you found this post useful. Blessings to you!
Thank you for these wise words to guide us in making decisions. And, I love your checklist to help us in considering the advice of wise counsel!
Julie, I’m so glad you found the checklist helpful.
I myself have a tendency to try and fix things myself—without friends or God. The Lord helped me to see this. Writing about it helps me to put what God is teaching into practice.
Thanks for commenting and God bless!
Thank you for the gentle reminder, Beckie. It’s easy to talk to anyone who will listen, but we (okay, I) need to remember to consider the source and SEEK Godly counsel.
Carole, I’m glad you found this helpful. I have a tendency to try and fix things myself first. If things don’t go well, I decide it’s time to talk to God. I’m learning to trust Him first.
Me too. I’m so thankful for other women on whom God is working in the same way.