Recently I was ‘called out’ by another Christian for something I said that hurt her feelings. When she began to speak, I must admit, I felt heat rise up my neck and into my face. I wanted to stop her and say, “You are judging me!” But instead, I prayed for wisdom on how to listen with God’s ears and not my own. It wasn’t easy, mind you.
And you know what? She was right and I was wrong. Furthermore, what she said helped me to make it right.
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.”
I tell you this because I believe it is a misconception that we are not to criticize or judge as Christians. What my friend did was constructive. It helped restore our relationship and taught me a lesson.
“Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
Since God loves and wants the best for us, He points out faults, shortcomings, and sins. The scriptures above show that He uses others to do that at times.
Ephesians 4:15 tells us to speak the truth in love. This means before bringing a fault or sin to someone’s attention, we need to do a few things first.
- PRAY ABOUT IT
- CHECK YOUR MOTIVES
If it is not based in love and restoration, it’s better to not say anything.
- MAKE SURE CRITICISM IS BASED ON TRUTH